He explained that sides enjoy practically every sexual practice aside from anal penetration and choose to be sexually peripheral, so to speak, rather than on the top or the bottom. In a HuffPo article, Kort presented an alternative to the binary classification employed by most gay men to note their preferred sexual position - i.e., “ top ,” the penetrat or in bed, or “ bottom ,” the penetrat ee - by introducing the term “sides” to indicate one’s affinity for neither - and maybe more importantly, disdain for both. They call themselves “ sides ,” a term coined in 2013 by Joe Kort, a Detroit-based clinical therapist who’s been counseling such men for nearly 30 years.
with a handful of gay men who have sworn off anal sex for good. I’m nibbling on a grocery-store cheese plate in a spacious home in East L.A.
